Subscribe now

Society

Dear David: How do I reconnect with old friends?

The research shows that getting back in touch with old friends is easier, and more welcome, than you might think, says David Robson, in his new evidence-based advice column

By David Robson

15 May 2024

Young african american woman and caucasian men sitting on benches in the London city and having fun discussion. Commuters on break.

Tomazl/Getty Images

When I tell friends I have written a (forthcoming) book about social connection, one of the most common questions I get is about “lost” friendships. They regret that they are no longer in contact with people who were once part of their lives. Should they make the first move to get in touch, or accept that some relationships are better left in the past?

The desire to reconnect is often balanced by a fear of being rebuffed, but two recent papers have convinced me that we can all be a bit braver about reaching out.

The first comes from…

Sign up to our weekly newsletter

Receive a weekly dose of discovery in your inbox! We'll also keep you up to date with New Scientist events and special offers.

Sign up

To continue reading, subscribe today with our introductory offers

View introductory offers

No commitment, cancel anytime*

Offer ends 2nd of July 2024.

*Cancel anytime within 14 days of payment to receive a refund on unserved issues.

Inclusive of applicable taxes (VAT)

or

Existing subscribers

Sign in to your account